Navigating Binary Gender Spaces

There are still a lot of spaces in our society where strict binary gender roles are assumed. Family, religion, work, or other spaces that we can’t always avoid. For many of us our mere presence is breaking gender norms, or even if we could fit into a gender norm it is extremely uncomfortable. What are some strategies to minimize the scrutiny and the discomfort? How do we decide when it is acceptable to bail? Is there a way to make these spaces better besides “exist harder”? Let’s collaborate on some ideas!

Wednesday, January 9th, 7:00pm to 8:30pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor John Baran Hall (to the left of the 2nd floor desk)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Level Up!

If you’re reading this, you have a new personal high score on trips around the Sun! What else did you level up in during the past year? Whether it took hard work or you just woke up like this, what are you proud of changing?

Wednesday, January 9th, 7:00pm to 8:30pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 203)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Emergency Escape Route

The Holidays can often be full of uncomfortable social situations. Situations where you may want some personal space but are restricted from leaving. Whether that’s because you’re in line or because family expects you to spend a certain amount of time with them. Let’s share ideas about how to creatively carve out personal space for ourselves. Ways we can minimize stress and anxiety while still holding ourselves accountable. Do you have any topics of conversation that help deescalate family dynamics? How about conversations with strangers? Do you have discreet comfort items that assist? Any spells you cast for protection? Let’s talk about it!

Wednesday, December 19th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Self Baked Gender Roles

Society often imposes it’s own gender roles upon all of us. Are there any societal roles we expect of ourselves? How creative can we get about how we interact with the world? Are there particular people you look to for inspiration? What kind of unique history do you bring to your own gender? Come join the conversation!

Wednesday, November 14th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Conversational Tactics

We’re doing the same topic we usually do around this time of year 🙂

Helpful tips from today’s discussion will be collected, de-identified, and posted on the blog and the Facebook group. Anyone has the option for their personal contribution to not be posted, at their discretion.

Holidays are times when some of us have to interact with blood relatives who are less than supportive and sometimes flat out hostile. It’s often a mix between affirming some parts of your identity while denying others, and the nuances make things complicated. Some of us live with or near them and have to navigate those relationships all year long, and some of us do not have relationships with them at all. Some questions to consider answers to for tonight’s topic:

How and when, if at all, do you talk to someone you love if they say something that hurts you?
How and when, if at all, do you talk to someone you depend on emotionally, logistically, or financially if they say something that hurts you?
What does confrontation look like for you?
What are some of the things that help you feel grounded during the holidays?
What alternatives have you found for when being around blood relatives isn’t a financial or emotional option?
How do you take care of yourself after being in an emotionally escalated situation?
The Southern Poverty Law Center posted a guide to addressing possible scenarios called Speak Up: Responding to Everyday Bigotry that I feel has some good scripts to start from. There are also more specific resources and events in Chicago for talking to families with specific religious and/or cultural backgrounds.

Wednesday, November 14th, 7:00pm to 8:15pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Current Events

There was a New York Times Article that has some folks pretty concerned, so  it might be helpful to clarify what’s going on, what to expect, and brainstorm some ideas for what people can do.

Wednesday, October 24th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Pronouns

https://pronounsday.org/
Today’s the first International Pronoun Day! Three guesses what we’re gonna talk about!

Wednesday, August 8th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Chosen/Found Family

Many LGBTQ folks end up resonating a lot with narratives about chosen family. What stories about chosen family do you enjoy the most? Do you currently have folks in your chosen family? What do you look for? Have you ever stumbled into a found family?

Let’s talk together about our experiences!

Wednesday, August 8th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Exposure

When did you first experience someone that reminded you of you? What impact did that have on you? If you could choose the way you were first exposed to someone like you, what would that look like? Who is a good example of someone you hope to become more like?

Wednesday, July 11th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

What Flavor Are You?

Today there’s a food centered event held by the Center on Halsted, so feel free to stop by before GQC and nab something and meet some people.

Just in case some new folks wander in, we’re going to do something basic and check in if there are any labels people have been exploring, what flags people might be trying out, and other ways we can communicate who we are.

Wednesday, June 13th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!