National Coming Out Day

 In honor of the holiday, I would like to talk about factors people consider in deciding if, when, and to what extent they feel comfortable coming out. What sort of comments did you hear from people you care about that help you trust them with this information? What do you need them to do when you share it? What would a perfect response be like?
There IS a Cubs game today, adjust travel plans accordingly. We will probably eat close to the center to avoid fans.


Wednesday, October 11th, 7:00pm to 8:30 pm

Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Different Selves

Me, myself, and I

Most likely each person has a sense of many different selves that interact with one another in our day to day life. A customer service self. A lover self. A friend self. A younger self. A relaxed self. A cleaning self. A working self. A last year self. A yesterday self. When we add gender into the mix our sense of self or selves can get even more multi faceted. Let’s talk about it. Is there a self we like hanging out with? Is there a self you have left behind? What is the gender of each self? Are they the same? Are they different? Do none of them have gender? Does thinking about different selves help us make sense of how we act in different contexts?

Wednesday, September 20th, 7:00pm to 8:30 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Hey y’all! Every month we have an Open Topic day where we chat about anything that comes up. It’s a good day to circle back to side topics we couldn’t delve into during regular discussions, or crowd source advice for a personal gender- related concerns. 

The inane question for today will be: “What’s your favorite warm non-alcoholic beverage?”

Looking forward to seeing everyone tonight!

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

GQC Blanket Fort Edition

Hey y’all! Every month we have an Open Topic day where we chat about anything that comes up. It’s a good day to circle back to side topics we couldn’t delve into during regular discussions, or crowd source advice for a personal gender- related concerns. Every other month, including today, we bring stuff to make a giant blanket fort with fairly lights and have our meeting circled up inside. So long as your living space does not and has not had bed bugs, feel free to bring blankets, pillows, rope, clothespins, and other blanket fort supplies to help out.

The silly question for today will be: “If someone were to pull a <insert your name here>, what would they be doing?” For example, “I imagine that to pull a Reynard is to not recognize someone I’ve already met and reintroduce myself.”

Looking forward to seeing everyone tonight!

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Consent

There will not be a Cubs game today, though it does look like it will rain and there are thunderstorm warnings for the general area. Tonight’s meeting will be about consent: how to communicate and check in for it in different contexts. Next week there will be an ice cream social held by the Center on Halsted concurrent to our meeting. Feel free to hang out there and swing by the meeting, or meet up with some GQC folks and head there together as a group!

Wednesday, June 14th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Self Advocacy

How do you assert yourself if you are still figuring out your gender? What do you even assert? How do we frame our unique experience in a constructive way, meaning that we aren’t simply basing our gender on what we are not? Or do we assert what we are not and let the world figure it out? Self Advocacy. What the heck does that even mean in a genderqueer/nonbinary/gender nonconforming context? And how do we access it when many of us struggle with mental health issues?

Let’s talk about it!

Silly question of the day will be: What is the best introduction to a person you’ve ever made or received?

Wednesday, June 7th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Boundaries, Part 2 + The Agenda for the Rest of April

Last week we had such a rich discussion that we decided to continue the topic through this week!

Coming up next:

April 19th – Open Topic: We talk about whatever comes up! On open topic days we also like to acknowledge the birthdays of members during that month. If you let the moderator know, you’ll receive a nifty gift bag.

April 26th – Autism Acceptance Month: We have a number of members who identify as being on the autism spectrum, so it’d be neat to chat about how autism can affect all of our experiences, and what it looks like to be and/or interact with autistic people as we explore gender. For people who are not familiar with autism, a good organization to check out is the Autistic Self Advocacy Network. Rebecca Burgess created a comic that addresses perceptions around the “spectrum” part of autism spectrum. As there is “cisgender” to describe people who are not “transgender”, the term “neurotypical“(NT)  emerged from within the autism community to describe people who are not autistic. This has later expanded to include others who do not neurologically develop in a typical way, such as people with AD/HD and/or dyslexia with the term “neurodivergent”. Lydia XZ Brown has written on the experience of being “gendervague”, a term that addresses a “neurodivergent experience of trans/gender identity”.

Wednesday, April 12th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Boundaries

We learn about a lot of different boundaries as we grow up. Bodily boundaries, financial boundaries, emotional boundaries, time boundaries, many others. This awareness of boundaries can often be heightened and often more confusing when we add gender into the mix. Boundaries are assumed, neglected, twisted, or otherwise disrespected. Let’s talk about boundaries. How do we set boundaries? With others? With ourselves? With our work? With our family? What makes a good boundary? Have your boundaries change over time? What has stayed the same?

All this and more! Come hang out!

Silly Question: What are you most excited for now that it is spring?
Wednesday, April 5th, 7:00pm to 9 pm
Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St.

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.
Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Isolation

A black and white charcoal drawing of a shadowy figure in a dark room facing a window frame. The other side of the window is much brighter.

There’s a difference between being alone, and being lonely. Sometimes gender, both as experienced and as perceived can affect what opportunities we have to be social and what it looks like when we do. Tonight we are going to chat about how to find (or make) those opportunities and reduce isolation. Some questions to consider:
What are times when you are surrounded by people but still feel lonely?
How much social interaction do you need to thrive, and what does that look like?
What are some things people do (or you wish they did) that make you feel included?
How do you know when you are a welcome part of a group?

The silly question will be: “Without explanation, what’s your favorite nickname?”
Wednesday, March 8th, 7:00pm to 9 pm 

Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202, let the people at the desk on the 2nd floor know you are there for GQC and they will buzz you in)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.

Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!

Trans Figures in Entertainment

For the past few weeks we have been focusing on public figures or pieces of media who go and say bigoted things while creating content of some sort that we appreciate in other ways. Let’s instead shift our focus to the media created by and for trans people and queer people. In this month containing Trans Day of Visibility, who is visible? Who is able to be visible? Who do we appreciate being visible? What media reflects ourselves? What doesn’t? Whose voices are missing? What tropes would we appreciate radio silence from? Where can we find glimmers of ourselves in older media? What media was surprisingly uplifting?

More questions and conversations to come during the meeting to be sure.

Silly Question: What is one thing kept in your living space you want to be more visible in the GQC space (or Chicago, or the world depending on comfort)?
Wednesday, March 8th, 7:00pm to 9 pm 

Center on Halsted, 2nd Floor (Room 202)
3656 N. Halsted St. 

Genderqueer Chicago is as safe a space as we can make it. To help with this, we have some working agreements that we would like all who come to meetings to keep in mind while within our safe space meetings. Please check out our working agreements here.

Safe space meetings are strictly closed to researchers and reporters in their professional capacities. Meetings are open to anyone else wanting to talk and think about gender! For more info, give us a shout at genderqueerchicago@gmail.com!